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EP – 782

2.18.2026

Relationship Expert Thais Gibson: Do You Keep Attracting The Same Emotionally Unavailable Partner? (Use THIS Attachment Reset To Break The Cycle And Choose Better Partners)

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Have you ever pushed away the love you wanted most or clung to it so tightly that you lost yourself in the process?

Jay sits down with Attachment Style expert and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory Thais Gibson to unpack one of the most powerful forces shaping our relationships. Together, they explore how our earliest emotional experiences quietly shape the way we love, communicate, and respond to conflict later in adulthood. Thais explains how anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant patterns aren’t flaws or labels that define us, but protective mechanisms we once needed to feel safe.

Jay and Thais dive into the subtle ways attachment wounds show up in dating and long-term relationships, from overthinking a delayed text, to fearing commitment when things start to get too serious. Thais shares practical tools for recognizing your subconscious needs, reprogramming limiting beliefs, and communicating in ways that build security instead of sabotaging connection. Jay highlights how healing isn’t about changing who you are, it’s about understanding why you are the way you are, and consciously choosing new patterns that align with the love you truly desire. They emphasize that compatibility alone isn’t enough; emotional safety, self-awareness, and the willingness to grow are what sustain meaningful connection.

This is a reminder that love is not just about finding the right person, it’s about becoming the safest, most secure version of yourself. When we learn to meet our own unmet needs, we stop outsourcing our worth and start building relationships rooted in clarity, compassion, and conscious choice.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Identify Your Attachment Style

How to Stop Overthinking in Relationships

How to Communicate Your Emotional Needs Clearly

How to Reprogram Limiting Love Beliefs

How to Build Emotional Safety with a Partner

How to Respond Instead of React to Triggers

How to Set Boundaries Without Fear of Abandonment

Awareness is the turning point. The moment you begin to notice your triggers without judging them, communicate your needs without apologizing for them, and choose growth over fear, that’s the moment your relationships begin to change.

Interested in learning more about your own Attachment style, take the Attachment Style Quiz here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_source=pr-js&utm_medium=public_relations&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_content=new-attachment-theory

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:12 Understanding Your Attachment Style

17:44 How to Date with Self-Awareness

21:56 Healing Your Core Wounds

29:22 Can Insecure Attachment Build a Healthy Relationship?

30:56 Pillar One: Reprogramming Core Beliefs

31:39 Pillar Two: Practicing Self-Validation

39:12 Pillar Three: Regulating the Nervous System

44:20 Pillar Four: Conscious Communication

53:39 Pillar Five: Creating Healthy Boundaries

57:49 The 90-Day Reprogramming Process

59:40 When One Partner Resists Self-Work

01:02:49 How Do You Move Forward With an Unwilling Partner?

01:04:42 The Psychology of Love Bombing

01:05:45 How Do You Set Boundaries With a Narcissist?

01:09:36 Why Anxious and Secure Dynamics Can Struggle

01:11:24 When Power Struggles Begin

01:18:24 Are You Just Scared or Is It a True Mismatch?

01:21:32 When is it Time to Break Up?

01:25:59 Do You Ever Truly Move On?

01:27:50 No One Is Ever 100% Ready

01:32:00 The Invaluable Lessons Hidden in Hard Times

01:35:23 This or That: Relationship Edition

01:40:16 Thais on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Website | http://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast/all-access-pass

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson

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