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Since the breakup, have there been moments when you actually felt calm, clear, or more like yourself?

When you imagine texting them, what are you secretly hoping they’ll say—or make you feel?

In this heartfelt and insightful compilation, Jay dives deep into the emotional landscape of breakups, offering a thoughtful and healing space for anyone navigating heartache. With his signature warmth and clarity, Jay brings together trusted voices in emotional wellness and relationships—Lori Gottlieb, Matthew Hussey, Stefan Speaks, Esther Perel, and Mel Robbins—each offering honest, thoughtful perspectives on what it really takes to move on after a relationship ends.

Together, they unpack the emotional aftermath of a breakup, from grief and confusion to self-doubt and the search for clarity. Whether you're dealing with the sting of rejection, stuck with unanswered questions, or scared to start over, this episode offers clear, grounded guidance that will leave you feeling both supported and uplifted. Without pressure, it offers a calm, compassionate space to work through the pain with presence, perspective, and hope.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Blaming Yourself After a Breakup

How to Know When It's Time to Let Go

How to Break Emotional Patterns in Relationships

How to Sit With Pain and Still Move Forward

How to Choose Peace Over the Past

This episode offers more than advice—it brings hope, the kind that encourages self-love, future growth, and a belief that better things are ahead.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss: 

00:00 Intro 

02:19 Why Breakups Feel Like the Hardest Loss

09:19 “Why Wasn’t I Enough?” Understanding the Root of Self-Blame

20:21 Knowing When It’s Time to Let Go

25:15 Should You Try to Win Them Back?

28:43 Practical Steps to Letting Go After a Breakup

34:41 Do What’s Best For You to Heal

36:56 Everyone Handles a Breakup Differently and That’s Okay

39:30 Shifting Conflict Into Understanding 

45:07 What Power Struggles in Relationships Really Mean

47:44 Why Breakups Make You Feel Unlovable

51:25 How to Release Control and Finally Find Peace

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